Corinne's Blog

I was on 43 Things.com and there was this question: *how do you know when you’re ready for a relationship, or whether you just want to be with someone to avoid being alone?*

I was in what I thought were “relationships” in the past and I found myself categorizing what kind of relationship it was going to be.
For example: The High School relationship when you think that you are going to be together for High school and you expect that you are going to try to remain together during college but you know that you are eventually going to ‘drift apart’.(aka the Strawberry Wine relationship)

Or the Summer sweetheart relationship when you know that at the end of the summer you will break up and go on your own separate ways (aka what my friend’s call the Grease Summer Lovin’ relationship).

or sadly the one night stand w/ emotional attachment where you think you’ll give the physical part of your body satisfaction with the knowledge that you may or may not have feelings for the person you are with.

It’s interesting how a person like me could see an end to my “love situations” with the opposite sex.

There was a time in my life when I believed it was normal for two people to be together for a few weeks as a couple for the benefits of being together. But that changed when I realized that i’d met someone who made it possible for me to not give our ‘loving situation’ a title.

I could see no end to what I call our relationship and I found I had no reason to move onto someone else.

Instead of making plans to accommodate the man in my life was already expected to be a part of it all. I planned to keep him in that position for as long as I could think of because he was the only man for the job.

I didn’t compare him to the people I’d been with in the past with hopes of moving on in the future to “something better” because I didn’t consider the relationship a fling or a temporary thing, it was all I knew and all I wanted to know.

I think a person knows that they want to be with someone truly in a real relationship when: even through the bad times you can see yourself being with that person or even in life transitions you know that you will surely take that person with you. When you can’t give your relationship a temporary title.

My best friend and boyfriend are one and the same and I’ve known him for almost seven years now, he’s the person in my life that I’ve had with me the longest and that I hope to keep with me longer. I have trouble determining when I fell in love with him unlike other relationships where I thought ‘I knew it right then that they were going to be mine’ there was no crazy infatuation stage before…it simply started. It did end my long time loneliness but it wasn’t because I needed that support it was because the relationship was right, true, and real.